This may sound like a stupid question – if you’re reading this BLOG,
you’ve already decided that you want a divorce. However, before
rushing to court you should ask yourself: am I absolutely certain
that my marriage has irretrievably broken down? Remember, if
it has not then the action of issuing divorce proceedings is likely
to put an end to any chance of a reconciliation. If you are in any
doubt, consider seeking marriage guidance at Relate (for details,
see Appendix 2). If your spouse does not want to go to Relate,
they can always advise you on your own. If it is clear that you
and your spouse will separate (or if you have already separated),
but it is not clear that the marriage is over, consider entering into
a separation agreement, as described in the next section.